If you talk with women who have been single for long periods of time, you will find a level of contentment, if not outright happiness, in the way they view their lack of a long-term commitment.
The exact reason behind their emotional freedom is hard to pinpoint, but there is an indiscernible, if not undeniable, sense of quiet comfort that is somewhat lacking among women in serious romantic relationships.
Although the reasons behind this phenomenon are unclear, some speculation suggests several possibilities.
Perhaps these women are unaccustomed to what it means to be someone’s wife or girlfriend, or maybe they are so comfortable being single their entire life that anything else would be unnatural.
Or perhaps they were in a relationship at one point, only to find themselves abandoned and alone. Or maybe they finally decided to take a break from the overwhelming whirlwind of the dating scene.
Regardless of the reason, women who remain single for large gaps of time ultimately end up the happiest.
One evident trait of these women is a personal comfort not only with themselves but comfort with the lack of intimacy in their everyday lives.
They are not just comfortable with solitude; they embrace the silence and stillness of the moment.
When going about their everyday lives and daily routines, single women are more likely to focus on the substance of the moment rather than wishing they had someone by their side to share it with.
Spending a night at home, eating lunch at a restaurant, or seeing a movie is not an exercise in loneliness; instead, they see these solo adventures as taking themselves out on a date.
Any awkwardness you may feel like an outsider looking in is not a shared sentiment.
Women who stay single for long periods of time ultimately end up the happiest because of the lack of a significant other frees them to pursue their own goals and ambitions without hesitation or guilt.
Yes, it’s selfish, but they consider it a form of selfless selfishness.
By sacrificing the physical and emotional rewards that a long-term romantic relationship may bring, they earn the kind of true freedom that eludes most other women.
By pursuing what they want regarding career, hobbies, and personal wellness with tireless passion and devotion, these women are the go-getters of the world.
The love found in a romantic relationship is not the only kind of love a person can find, and women who avoid long-term relationships know this better than anyone.
Instead of chasing after guys, they choose to chase after their dreams, which is something we should all aspire to regardless of whether we are in a relationship.
Not only is there nothing wrong with this approach to life, but there is also a whole lot right about it.
Women who are single for extended periods of time don’t necessarily despise living the single life- they enjoy it!
Instead of being afraid of never marrying, they find inspiration in the freedom of a solo journey. Living alone isn’t an albatross around their neck; it’s a security blanket.
None of this is to say that these women are ultimately adverse to a romantic relationship if one should blossom. But the prior experience of being single will make them stronger and surer in what they expect from a relationship.
They should be able to identify and set clear goals and standards for how they hope to be treated and what kind of partner they want to be.
Instead of drifting aimlessly, these women will seek out partners who will challenge them while encouraging them at the same time.
They will look for someone to have her back while inspiring her to go and conquer the world.
They will choose those who are capable of demonstrating pride and genuine happiness for her successes and empathy and understanding for her inevitable failures.
Ultimately, they will look for a partner who is willing to sacrifice just as much for her as she is for them.
Make no mistake; we are talking about healthy individuals who will not lose themselves to love someone else. Minimizing their morals, values, hopes or dreams to serve the needs of someone else are non-starters.
As a result, these women find happiness because they already have a unique source of inner-contentment that allows the pursuit of contentment with another to be a luxury, not a necessity.
By setting high standards based on their own strength, compassion, and self-worth, they fully understand the meaning of happiness.